Why don't women have the right to issue divorce?
Shaykh Muqbil al-Wādi'ē rahimahullah said:
“If Allāh had placed divorce in the hand of the woman, she would have surely divorced her husband more than twenty times in a day due to the deficiency in her intellect. However, it is from the grace of Allāh, The Mighty and The Majestic, that He has placed custodianship in the hand of the man.”
[Fawā'id Min Durūs Abī…
Show mercy and you will be shown mercy
Shaikh Uthaimeen rahimahullah said:
“The more merciful someone is towards others, the more merciful Allāh will be to him—because you reap what you sow—so if a person finds that he is hardhearted towards Allāh’s believing servants then he must cure that disease. One of the ways for a person’s heart to become soft towards Allāh’s servants is for him to be gentle with children…
Seeking ‘Ilm and Motherhood
Maryam bint ‘Abdul Qadir rahimahullah was a copywriter (ناسخة).
Women would take on the work of scribing religious books and the Quran alongside men. (please take note that this does not mean free mixing, it means doing the same work as men in terms of scribing religious knowledge)
She is said to be one of the ’Ālimāt (women scholars) of the 6th Century after Hijri.
She worked on…
A Foul Woman
’Umar ibn Al-Khaṭṭāb رضي الله عنه said:
“‎The foulest of women is As-salfā’. (As-salfā’ is the immodest woman who mixes with men and is not shy from them).”
[Musannaf Ibn Abi Shaybah, 3/325]
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Remaining at home
Allāh ﷻ said:
﴿وَقَرۡنَ فِی بُیُوتِكُنَّ وَلَا تَبَرَّجۡنَ تَبَرُّجَ ٱلۡجَـٰهِلِیَّةِ ٱلۡأُولَىٰ﴾
“And stay in your homes; and do not display yourselves like in the former days of ignorance." [Sūrah Al-Aḥzāb: 33]
The meaning of this Āyah is the command to stay in the house. Although it’s addressed to the wives of the Prophet ﷺ, all other women are included.
Shari‘ah is filled with evidence…
Every Mother Is A Da’ee
Sheikh ‘Uthaymeen rahimahullah said:
“A woman first and foremost needs to be righteous herself, so that she can be a good example for her daughters…
A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future. In the earliest stages of their development, it is the mothers that human beings learn from. If she is a good mother, good in her manners…
This is why they target our women
Shaykh Ṣāliḥ al-Fawzān حفظه الله said:
“When the woman is weak, the house is weak. When the house is weak, the children are weak. When the houses are weak, the society is weak.”
[Muḥāḍarāt fīl ʿAqīdah wad Daʿwah | Page 162]
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Mother's Duty
Shaykh Sālih Al-Fawzān حفظه اللّٰه said:
“The duty of the mother in raising the child is not an easy job. Rather, it is a job that requires knowledge and it requires effort, in order to be consistent.”
[A woman's guide to raising a family, pg. 53]
He also said حفظه الله:
Women are the nurturers, fosterers, rearers, educators, and cultivators for the men [for that which they produce with them…
Scaring children
Sheikh Al-`Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:
“Some of the foolish, ignorant people, lacking intelligence, scare their small innocent children and frighten them by saying: so-and-so will come (and take you), or so-and-so will (do such-and-such to you). So the child gets scared and this fear and anxiety remains in his heart, and this becomes permanent in his heart so that he is constantly in anxiety, fear…
Truth is judged on evidence - not eloquence
Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baz rahimahullāh:
“Indeed an abundance of speech and eloquence are not evidence of the truth, rather evidence of the truth is what Allaah said and what His Messenger ﷺ said.”
[Majmoo al-Fatawa, vol. 6, pg. 223]
Sheikh al-Albani rahimahullah said:
“‎The person who is seeking the truth, one evidence will be enough for him. A person who is…
Working to get married
Ibn al-Jawzi rahimahullah writes:
Musa (عليه السلام) spent ten years of his blessed life to pay the dowry for the daughter of Shu‘ayb (عليه السلام).
Were it not that marriage is one of the best of things, the Prophets (عليهم السلام) would not have spent so much time on it (or have had so much patience upon it).
[Captured Thoughts, pg. 65]
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Underage marriages in this era
Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen rahimahullah said:
“What appears to me is that from a disciplinary point of view of the present time, the father is to be absolutely stopped from marrying his daughter until she reaches puberty.
And she is to be asked for her permission (for marriage).
A lot of things happen, because they do not take into account the interest of the girl, rather they only take…
Happiness in marriage
Sheikh Uthaymeen rahimahullah said:
“Happiness in marriage will not be attained through harshness or by controlling (one’s wife). Verily, this is a mistake.
Rather, it is obligatory upon the husband to look at his wife as his companion, the mother of his children, and the caretaker of the house. And he should respect her the way he would love her to respect him.”
[Noor ‘alaa ad-Darb,…
Don't delay marriage
Imām Ibn Bāz rahimahullāh said:
“That which I advise all the young women with is: agreement whenever a suitable man comes for them, and to not make the excuse of studying or teaching (or age, or time) or other than that (to delay marriage).”
[Majmū’ al-Fatāwā Ibn Bāz (rahimahullāh), 20/414]
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Marriage is not merely for sexual gratification
Shaykh Muhammad Amaan Ibn Ali Al-Jaami rahimahullah said:
“Those who think that the only purpose of marriage is to taste delight and pleasure whenever feasible and nothing else have obviously erred.
This kind of perception has badly ruined many of the youth and lead to ethical decline and deterioration.
As a result, many of the youth in many lands live their life…
When Looking for A Spouse, Look for Religion and Character
'Umar ibn al-Khaṭṭāb radhiyAllahu ‘anhu said:
“Marriage is slavery, so be careful with regards to whom you hand your daughters for enslavement.”
[Al-Fatāwa al-Kubrā, 3/148]
Shaikh Albani rahimahullah said:
“Just as the Messenger of Allah ﷺ has ordered the khātib (i.e., a man seeking a woman's hand in marriage) to look out for a righteous woman and not…
Tawheed of the fearful ones
Shaykh Ibn Bāz rahimahullah said to one of the students:
لِمَ لا تُعدَّد؟
“Why are you not practicing polygyny?”
The student replied:
يا شيخ، أنا موحَّد.
“Shaykh! I am upon Tawheed (in marriage)!
So the Shaykh (rahimahullah) said to him:
هذا توحيد الخائفين.
“This is the Tawheed of the fearful ones!”
[ الامام ابن باز دروس ومواقف وعبر- للسدحان - ص٧٣ ]
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The stigma of polygyny
We live in a time where polygyny is viewed as something strange, shameful, and even offensive.
Today, if a woman supports her husband in seeking a second, third, or fourth wife, people label her as naïve, delusional, or oppressed. And if a man expresses his wish to marry again, he’s often called disloyal, lustful, or accused of having an unsatisfied wife.
Yet, when a wife sincerely helps…
Protect yourselves from Ad-Dajjal
Ibn ’Umar رضي الله عنه reported:
يَنْزِلُ الدَّجَّالُ فِي هَذِهِ السَّبَخَةِ بِمَرِّقَنَاةَ فَيَكُونُ أَكْثَرَ مَنْ يَخْرُجُ إِلَيْهِ النِّسَاءُ حَتَّى إِنَّ الرَّجُلَ لَيَرْجِعُ إِلَى حَمِيمِهِ وَإِلَى أُمِّهِ وَابْنَتِهِ وَأُخْتِهِ وَعَمَّتِهِ فَيُوثِقُهَا رِبَاطًا مَخَافَةَ أَنْ تَخْرُجَ إِلَيْهِ.
“The Messenger of Allāh ﷺ said: The Dajjāl will come upon this marsh of…
Get someone else to breastfeed your new born for the first 2/3 days
Ibn Al-Qayyim رحمه الله stated:
«يَنْبَغِي أَن يكون رضَاع الْمَوْلُود من غير أمه بعد وَضعه يَوْمَيْنِ أَو ثَلَاثَة وَهُوَ الأجود لما فِي لَبنهَا ذَلِك الْوَقْت من الغلظ والأخلاط بِخِلَاف لبن من قد اسْتَقَلت على الرَّضَاع وكل الْعَرَب تعتني بذلك حَتَّى تسترضع أَوْلَادهَا عِنْد نسَاء الْبَوَادِي كَمَا استرضع النَّبِي صلى الله عَلَيْهِ وَسلم فِي بني…
Wise & experienced women should have a positive influence on the younger generation
Ibn Al-Jazwi رحمه الله said:
“The best way to discipline a woman is by preventing her from speaking with other women (who are not righteous, who possess evil traits and morals) and from leaving the house (unnecessarily). Further, and elderly woman should be assigned to discipline her, teaching her how to respect her husband,…
The face is one the most essential things to be covered
Shaykh Muhammad al-Saalih Al-‘Uthaymeen rahimahullah said:
“The hijāb prescribed in Sharī’ah means that a woman should cover everything that it is haraam for her to show, i.e., she should cover that which it is obligatory for her to cover, first and foremost of which is the face, because it is the focus of temptation and desire.
A woman is obliged to cover…
What is the foundation (أصل) of marriage - monogamy or polygyny?
Sheikh Ibn Baz rahimahullah said:
The foundation in the Sharia is polygyny for he who has the capability to do so, and will not oppress them.
This is due to the many benefits of polygyny, protecting ones private parts, protection for the one who marries women and is good to them. The increase of offspring by which the Ummah is increased thereby an…
Some women are more intelligent than many men
Sheikhul. Islām Ibn Taymiyyah رحمه الله stated:
« فَإنَّهُ لَا رَيبَ أنَّ فِي النِّسَاءِ مَن هُوَ أعقَلُ مِن كَثِيرٍ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ ».
There is no doubt that amongst the women there are those who have more intelligence than many from amongst the men.
[Majmū’ al-Fatāwa ibn Taymiyyah, 6/447]
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