Protect Your Peace from Outside Influence
Have you noticed how, when a child trips or falls, they don’t always cry right away? They feel the pain and may look startled, but often they hold back. If the people around them carry on as though nothing happened, the child usually stays composed. But the moment others rush over, fussing and making it a big scene, the child bursts into tears.
The same pattern sometimes…
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Financial Maintenance in Polygyny (another perspective)
Shaykh Fatḥ Al-Qadasi ḥafidhahullāh:
▪️First, these matters should be handled between the husband and the wife with ease, gentleness, generosity, and forbearance. They should not be dealt with through a harsh or rigid system. Rather, they should be conducted in a manner governed by understanding and mutual tolerance. Yes, if there is any surplus or extra, it may be given from it, and if there is any shortfall, then…
Question: As-salāmu ʿalaykum. I would like your Islamic guidance regarding nafaqah in polygyny. I am a second wife. My husband sends me a fixed monthly amount intended to cover my household expenses (rent, bills, groceries, transport, and basic needs). He says that by giving this amount, he has fulfilled his responsibility, and that any remaining money from it is still his money. He also believes that if we go out…
Protect Children from Sexual Abuse
🚨 What Is Sexual Abuse?
Sexual abuse refers to any act of a sexual nature imposed on a child or adolescent without their consent. It may be committed by an adult or by another child. Sexual abuse falls into two main categories:
🔴 First Type: Physical Contact
This includes inappropriate kissing, improper hugging, touching a child’s private parts, or attempting to engage in…
22. If one wife is a student of knowledge, there is no harm in him taking her out so she may benefit other women in nearby areas, provided it is not a travelling distance (safar). The time spent would
23. If, after marrying a second wife, he buys gold or clothing for the first wife to appease her, this is permissible. There is no harm in this, as women often experience emotional distress when their husbands marry again. Doing so early and informing the second wife may prevent issues. If delayed, however, the second wife may later demand equal treatment.
All praise is due to Allāh, and may peace and blessings be…
11. If he must travel and leave his wives behind, then upon his return he must continue from where he left off. So if he travelled when one wife’s turn had ended, he must begin with the other upon ret
12. If he intends to travel with one wife, even if both have agreed to take turns accompanying him, he should still clarify the duration of the journey to avoid injustice. One journey may take longer than another, which could lead to dispute. If there is mutual consent after knowing the duration, then there is no harm. However, the preferred method of the Prophet ﷺ is drawing lots: he would cast lots between them,…
How is justice attained between the first and second wife? (forwarded)
1. It begins with him spending three nights with the new wife as soon as he marries her if she is not a virgin, or seven nights if she is a virgin. There is no allotment between the two wives during this period, as proven by the ḥadīth of Anas ibn Mālik (may Allāh be pleased with him), who said:
“It is from the Sunnah that when a man marries a…
Please bear in mind that shaving is different from trimming. The discussion above relates specifically to shaving the head with a razor, not trimming. Trimming the hair evenly to any length one wishes is permissible. Even shaving the head completely bald was not declared impermissible by the shaykh; rather, he merely advised against doing so regularly, as this was not the practice of the Prophet ﷺ, but was instead…
The Practice of Head Shaving
Question: Is shaving the entire head with a razor, such that no hair remains, outside of ḥajj and ʿumrah considered an imitation of the Khawārij?
And should one object to a person who does this?
Shaykh Najeeb Ash-Shar’abi ḥafidhahullāh:
Shaving the head is a prescribed act of worship that is obligatory in ḥajj and ʿumrah, by explicit textual evidence and scholarly consensus.
It is…
Whoever Disobeys Allāh Through Something May Be Punished By That Same Thing
Shaykh ’Abdullāh
Al-Qusayr rahimahullah said:
By Allāh, I witnessed a man in the final moments of his life who was listening to music and singing along with his car stereo.
Even as he was in the agony of death, he continued to sing instead of saying Lā ilāha illā Allāh.
He had disobeyed Allāh by listening to songs.
After he was involved in a car accident, he kept singing although his neck had been severed.
I…