𝗪𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻'𝘀 𝗕𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗳𝗶𝘁𝘀 (238)

After marrying a second wife: My husband doesn't pray, he's a fornicator... Question: A woman married a man who had committed adultery with another woman, and that woman became pregnant. She learned of this after their marriage but continued living with him. He still pursues other women and has now married a second wife, with whom he had a relationship before the marriage. The wife is aware of all this and now says she can no longer bear it. She initially thought her husband would repent and abandon his immoral behavior as he reached his sixties, but nothing has changed. She asks what she should do? Sheikh ’Abdulḥamīd Az-Zu'kari ḥafidhahullāh: It is merely the work of the devil. When he was committing these filthy acts, you did not get angry for the sake of Allāh. You should have rose up and got angry with him when he was engaging in indecency. It was only after he married, that you wanted to portray yourself as being angry for Allāh's sake, but (it appears), your anger was for yourself. This is common among many women: they live with their husbands for 20 or 30 years, and when he marries another, they claim he does not pray. But for those 20 years before, why didn’t you seek the religious ruling on him abandoning prayer? You already knew that he moved from one woman to another, but you did not express anger about it until he married again. Now you seek a solution?! Anyhow, the solution is as follows: if he is still committing adultery, leave him. However, if he has repented from adultery and is only married to this second wife, be patient with him. Do not jeopardise the future of your children. If you leave him, you may seek another husband who could also be polygamous, and your children may suffer as a result. Just as you were patient during his days of immorality, be patient during his days of repentance. @womensbenefits