The Right Mindset Before Marriage Makes A Long-term Difference
17 August 2024 • 9.07K views
«اشـتكى رجـل عند سفيان بن عيينة أنه تزوج امـرأة فـصار أذل الأشياء عنـدها و أحقـرها؛ أي أنَّها تذله، فقال سفـيان: لعلك رغبت إليـها لـتزداد عِـزًّا؟! قال: نعم، فقال سفـيان: من ذهـب إلى العز ابتلي بالـذل، ومن ذهـب إلى المال ابتلي بالفقـر، و من ذهب إلى الـدين يجمع الله له العز و المال مع الـدين».
A man complained to Sufyān ibn ‘Uyaynah that he married a woman and has since become the most humiliated and insignificant thing in her eyes—meaning she belittles him. Sufyān enquired, "Perhaps you sought her in marriage to increase your status?" The man replied, "Yes." Sufyān then said, "Whoever seeks status will be afflicted with humiliation, whoever seeks wealth will be afflicted with poverty, but WHOEVER SEEKS RELIGION, ALLAH WILL GRANT HIM STATUS and WEALTH along with RELIGION ."
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