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A Wife Refuses Her Husband Ejaculating During Pregnancy Periods Question: A woman agreed with her husband on a method of preventing pregnancy. The arrangement was that they would have intercourse on certain known and specified days, and while using this method, her husband wanted to have intercourse with her on days other than the agreed days. The wife refused that. Please note that she did not completely refuse intercourse. Rather, she only refused ejaculation because these were days when pregnancy was expected to occur. They had also agreed that ejaculation would not happen on these days. As for withdrawal (ʿazl), she did not refuse it. Is she sinful for doing this? Does she fall under the hadith: “Any woman who…”? Her husband says that she is included in this hadith, while she says that she did not refuse intercourse at all. She only refused ejaculation. However, if he has intercourse with her and uses withdrawal, she does not refuse; rather, she asks him to do that. Please give us your ruling. It would be appreciated if the answer could be written. May Allah reward you with goodness. Shaykh Khalid Ash-Sharihi (may Allah preserve him) replied: The agreement between spouses not to have children is either: 1) for a specific period of time, or 2) permanently. As for the first case, where they agree not to have children temporarily, then the reason behind this should be considered. If the reason is fear of lack of provision, then this is not permissible, due to the statement of Allah: “We provide for them and for you.” As for if it is because of a medical reason, or for a period of breastfeeding, such as spacing children so that the child can breastfeed for two years, or if doctors determine that pregnancy poses a confirmed danger to the mother, or because the woman cannot give birth naturally and requires a surgical procedure to deliver the baby, then there is no harm in this, Allah willing, and there is no Islamic prohibition against it. However, if the agreement between the spouses is to prevent having children permanently, then this is not permissible. Completely preventing childbirth contradicts the Islamic guidance that encourages having offspring and increasing the number of the Ummah, and it is one of the purposes of marriage. It was narrated from Ma'qil ibn Yasar (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: “Marry the loving and fertile women, for I will boast of your large numbers before the other nations.” As for whether she is allowed to prevent her husband: A wife must obey her husband if he calls her to the marital bed. If she refuses, then she is considered disobedient and rebellious. The Prophet ﷺ strongly warned against a wife refusing her husband. He said: “If a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, and he spends the night angry with her, the angels curse her until morning.” The ruling on withdrawal (ʿazl) is that it is permissible when there is a need for it and with the wife’s permission, because she has the right to complete enjoyment and she has the right to have children. It was narrated from Jabir ibn Abdullah that he said: “We used to practise withdrawal during the lifetime of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ while the Qur’an was being revealed.” Source: https://t.me/BOT_9_9_1/26100 https://t.me/womensbenefits/1843