Advice to the Bride (2)

Marriage is a test of patience, adab, and how we understand rights and roles. At times, you may feel irritation when expectations are unmet, but the believer returns to the boundaries Allāh. Rights in shariah are not based on emotion or comparison. The husband’s right is a divine right established by Allāh, like the great right of the mother, and is not based on emotion or expectations, but is to be upheld and honoured like all the other commands of Allāh ‏سبحانه وتعالى. The Prophet ﷺ said: ((فإنما هو جنتك ونارك)) "He is your paradise or your Hellfire" And Allah said: {إنما عليكم ما حُمِّلتم وعليهم ما حُمِّلوا} "Upon you is what you are responsible for, and upon them is what they are responsible for." So do not let shaytan shift your mindset into treating your husband like a peer or sibling, where respect is conditional and emotions dictate behaviour. Also remember the warning: ((أشد الناس عذابًا يوم القيامة اثنان: امرأة عصت زوجها…)) "The most severely punished on the Day of Judgement are two: a woman who disobeys her husband…" Constantly remember your actions in marriage are deeply tied to your īmān, your heart, and your standing with Allāh. So correct the mindset: do good for Allāh, not for reciprocation. And don’t attach your heart to creation, for the Prophet ﷺ said: ((مَنْ تَعَلَّقَ شيئًا وُكِلَ إليه)) “Whoever becomes attached to something is entrusted to it.” Attach your heart to Allāh, and you will not lose. The reward for a righteous obedient wife is great, and what is with Allāh is better and more lasting. بارك الله لكما وبارك عليكما وجمع بينكما في خير