𝗪𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻'𝘀 𝗕𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗳𝗶𝘁𝘀 (627)

Reconciliation May Be Better Than Separation Even When Some Rights Are Given Up Question: Allah’s statement: “And reconciliation is better” — in the context of reconciliation between spouses. If a reconciliation happens where the wife gives up her right to financial support (or part of it), or gives up some of her rights in the marriage, and she is harmed by doing so, how can this be better than divorce if she has suffered harm? Sheikh Rashad Adh-Dhali'ee: A woman may choose this because she sees a greater benefit in it than what she is giving up. For example, if the husband has a respected position and status among people, she may want to remain with him even if she gives up some of her rights. This is similar to what happened with Sawdah bint Zam'ah (may Allah be pleased with her), one of the Mothers of the Believers. When the Prophet ﷺ wanted to separate from her, she asked him ﷺ to keep her as his wife and gave up some of the rights she had over him. She gave her night (the time he would spend with her) to Aishah bint Abi Bakr (may Allah be pleased with her), because she wanted to remain the Prophet’s wife. The Prophet ﷺ accepted this arrangement and kept her as his wife. This was a benefit for her. The point is that a woman may choose this because she sees a benefit in it. She may also choose it because she has children and wants to remain close to them and continue raising them. She may prefer to stay in the marriage and with her children, even if that means giving up part of her rights. There is no doubt that a reconciliation in which some rights are given up can be better than separation, because it may contain a greater benefit. A woman may choose this in many situations when she sees that the overall benefit is greater. However, if she is harmed and cannot be patient, and she believes separation is better for her, then she has the right to ask for divorce. And Allah knows best. Source: https://t.me/rshad11/4774