Why I Married a Westerner

A sister writes: I‘m an Arab woman who married a German convert at the age of 18. My family is not religious so they didn’t care about the ethnicity of my spouse. I grew up in the west and I’m not so much in touch with my culture or my language, since it has never been taught to me. Another thing is, a lot of people in my family and ethnic group have some non Islamic views that influence and also hurt people’s feelings, like that a woman cant be older than her husband, a girl has to do everything while the man does nothing, a man can cheat or have intimacy before marriage because “men can’t control their urge even though it would be better if they guard their chestity” etc. Not every Arab person is like this obviously, but I couldn’t live or have enough patience for two families with that mindset. My german husband is really different, he has experience and can always warn me if i feel like I’m “missing out”. He loves his religion dearly and tries to follow the sunnah as close as he can. He protects me and he even convinced his father to convert to Islam due to his patience. I feel like a lot of converts really show more interest, respect and strength when it comes to religion. He provides for me and knows exactly his strengths and weaknesses. My mom, who used to hate sunni salafis like me due to her being shia, loves my husband due to his manners and patience when it comes to conflicts and help. By that, he is not really your typical standard western guy, but he is my biggest help and supporter. A lot of white people respect him more and rarely say anything against me and my niqab/sitar. It’s different for everyone but I’m glad to have him. May ﷲ bless us with righteous spouses and children and may He unite us in Jannah. [end quote] https://t.me/womensbenefits/1738