𝗞𝗵𝗮𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗿𝗮𝗵 (208)

Preparing for Marriage in a Hypersexualised Society I remember it as though it were yesterday. During one of the general lessons in Dammaj, someone sent a note to Sheikh Yaḥyā requesting that he begin teaching Tuḥfat Al-ʿArūs—a comprehensive guide covering matters related to marriage, including the rights of spouses and marital relations. The Sheikh's response regarding studying the finer details of marital intimacy was along the lines of: "Ikhwān, there is no need for extensive study of this topic. It is part of the natural disposition (fiṭrah). Just as animals instinctively know how to fulfil this function, human beings have been created with the same innate ability." Reflecting on this, what the Sheikh said is undoubtedly true—at least for those whose innocence and natural disposition have not already been corrupted. However, for many who grow up in the West, the situation is quite different. Their exposure to sexual matters is often accelerated from a young age, and they are introduced to concepts and behaviours that previous generations would not have encountered until adulthood. As a result, it becomes increasingly important that they are taught marital rights and intimacy according to Islam, so that their understanding can be corrected and they can be cleansed of the misconceptions and influences to which they have been exposed. In schools throughout the West, children are introduced to sex education from a young age. They are taught about the functions of their private parts and are often encouraged to explore their own bodies. They are taught concepts long before they possess the maturity necessary to fully comprehend such matters. Then there is the education that takes place outside the classroom. On the playground and among their peers, children learn that illicit relationships are "cool," and that if you do not have a girlfriend or boyfriend, you are somehow backward or abnormal. By the time many students leave secondary school, knowledge of contraception and sexual relationships is considered commonplace. Coupled with unrestricted internet access and the increasingly explicit nature of conversations among young people, the situation appears to be worsening with each generation. For these reasons, age-appropriate sexual education within a mature Islamic framework is important for young Muslims, particularly as they approach marriage. Such education should not be aimed at stimulating desires or satisfying curiosity, but rather at teaching the rights, responsibilities, etiquettes, and boundaries established by Islam, while correcting the distorted ideas that many have absorbed from their surroundings. Source: https://t.me/khawaaaaatir/313