(This is being sent on behalf of another Muslim - May Allah pardon them)

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته May Allah bless you, we wanted to point out some things in regards to the issue of polygamy, so it can bring more awareness to the brothers and also the sisters. We saw some of your posts in regards to polygamy on Telegram, and they are beneficial, so may Allah reward you with good. But some of the brothers who saw your posts regarding this, may think this is mustahabb (recommended) and may want to practice polygamy. Even though this is something khayr (good), they must be aware that polygamy is for men (proper men who are fit for this). Many men allow their wives to do Tabujjuj (immodest display of a woman's beauty), to free-mix with non-mahram (foreign) men, to post themselves online, etc. They are Dayoothd (a man who lacks protective jealousy over his women folk), and they want to practice polygamy? How is a man like this going to practice polygamy when he is not even carrying out his responsibilities towards his first wife and family, and lacks Gayrah (protective jealousy). If he can not even carry out his responsibilities and have Tawqaa (fear and consciousness) of Allah in regards to his first wife, then how is he supposed to do that with his second wife, let alone third or fourth wife? This is not a man, this is a Dayooth (a man who lacks protective jealousy over his women folk), and polygamy is for men (proper men). Likewise the majority of men do not know the rulings and conditions of polygamy, and they do not know that it goes through Al-Ahkaam At-Takleefiyyah (the five rulings from obligatory to prohibited) in specific situations. He does not realize that maybe polygamy is haraam (prohibited) for him, for how many men know this? Or he gets married to a second wife and he is not providing for his first wife, and he is ignorant that it is NOT permissible for him to practice polygamy in this situation. How are you going to marry a second wife when you are not even fulfilling the rights of your first wife, and this (spending on the wife) is from the greatest rights a woman has over her husband. Sometimes some men practice polygamy and lack wisdom, so he says to his wife “be quiet, I am a man I can do whatever I want, Allah has made polygamy permissible for me.” They are harsh with their wives instead of being kind and gentile, and they do not try to make them understand. Maybe polygamy may not be recommended for him because of his specific situation (not referring to how he speaks to his wife). Thus the woman acts in an inappropriate manner, even though this is not justified. She may think, “how are you going to get married to another wife, while you are not even fulfilling our needs (financially)?” And she’s right, but he is ignorant of the conditions and rulings, and he just thinks “Allah has made this permissible for me”, and Allah is The One aid is sought with. Then the woman gets very upset because of the situation or because of how her husband is dealing with her, and his lack of wisdom. Then he gets upset because of how she is acting, even though he is the cause for it, and of course she is responsible for her actions. How is a man going to practice polygamy while he is ignorant of its rulings and conditions, when this is a GREAT MATTER? This is not something light, these are muslim women who believe in Allah, the daughters of other men. They are not like the disbelieving women who are despicable and vile. Therefore, is practicing polygamy better for the majority of men while they are unfit for it? When the majority of them are Dayoothes (a man who lacks protective jealousy over his women folk) and do not fear Allah and many of them are immoral people. Many of them do not even fulfill their obligations toward their first wives and families. Even though there is a need for polygamy especially in our time, and I say all of this while I lean towards the opinion that polygamy is mustahabb (recommended). There is a lot of khayr (good) in polygamy and it is a mercy from Allah.