Introduction to “The Leading Way to Convince a Man to Have Only One Wife”

All praise is due to Allāh. I bear witness that there is no diety worthy of worship except Allāh alone, with no partner, and that Muhammad is His servant and Messenger, peace and blessings be upon him. I previously wrote my first book titled: “How to Marry a Second Wife Calmly Without Causing Conflict with the First Wife.” I wrote it because of a painful reality I kept seeing repeated: homes destroyed, hearts broken, and children lost in the middle. This often happened because a second marriage was entered without wisdom, without fairness, and without respect for a previous marriage that had been built with effort and loyalty. That book was a message to men — not encouraging them, nor discouraging them — but an honest reminder: If you choose to marry again, know how to protect your first home, how to care for your first wife’s heart, and how not to turn something permissible into a weapon that destroys what you built over many years. But after deeper reflection, I realised the story is not complete from one side only. Just as the man has responsibility, the woman also has an important role. From here came this book: “The Leading Way to Convince a Man to Have Only One Wife.” I wrote it with the intention of understanding, compassion, and bringing hearts closer together. I wrote it because I saw women lose their husbands — not because they were bad — but because they did not know how to hold on to the heart before it drifted away. They did not realise that when a man thinks about another woman, he is often not looking for a new body, but for a missing feeling, lost warmth, or a peace that has slowly faded over time. This book offers advice to women and calls for understanding and mutual respect. It is a practical guide for the wise woman who wants to embrace her husband and protect her home with wisdom and calmness. It tells the woman: Not every man who married another woman was unjust, and not every man who refrained from doing so was loyal. But the intelligent woman is the one who knows how to become the wife he does not think of replacing — not because other women are forbidden, but because his heart is already full of her. Both books were born from the same reality, but each speaks to a different side: The first speaks to a man’s conscience, and the second speaks to a woman’s wisdom. Between conscience and wisdom, homes are protected, marriages are preserved, and children grow up in safety. Abu Ubaidah Muhammad Ash-Sharihi 9 Sha‘ban 1447 AH Corresponding to 28/1/2026