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27 February 2024 β’ 1.9K views
Overcoming marital discord
If you're going through marital problems, I advise you with the following 3:
1. Leave off sins!
2. Sincere repentance!
3. Increase in good deeds!
That should solve the problem Insha'Allah. But if it doesn't, I recommend the following:
4. Trace the route cause and eliminate/minimise.
What triggers the beef?
Is it because you're spending more time on your phone than on your spouse? -> sort it out!
Are there topics which trigger beef? The "second wife" topic...possibly? -> Avoid controversies and get your act together brother.
Is third party involvement affecting your marriage? -> Do they need to be involved?
Disclosing marital secrets/problems? -> Don't do this unless it's with a trustworthy councillor/ seeking fatwa...and it should be with the intention of resolving and correcting - not exposing and reviling!
Are you busy making comparisons to other people/couples? They are doing this and that but we are not...he/she is doing this and that for his/her spouse, but you are not... -> stop comparing and complaining and start being more appreciative. The more appreciative you are of your spouse, the more likely you will be appreciative of Allah
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And the more appreciative you are of Allah, the more He will continue to shower His blessings upon you
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AND THE OPPOSITE IS ALSO TRUE!
Are you going through emotional mood swings? Are you using contraception sister? This may actually be the cause; contraception is known to affect the one's mood. If so, is it really necessary? Do you know the ruling on contraception? If not, read ahead ‡οΈ
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