𝗠𝗲𝗻'𝘀 𝗕𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗳𝗶𝘁𝘀 (56)

Forgiveness, tolerance, and overlooking faults between husband and wife A human being is not an infallible angel, free from error; rather, he sometimes acts rightly and sometimes errs—both in his duty toward Allāh and in his dealings with His servants. There is no remedy for this except repentance to Allāh, and forgiveness and pardon among people. Imam Ash-Shāfiʿī (may Allāh have mercy on him) said: وَعاشِر بِمَعروفٍ وَسامِح مَنِ اِعتَدى وَدافِع وَلَكِن بِالَّتي هِيَ أَحسَنُ “Live together in kindness, pardon those who wrong you; and retaliate in the best manner.” Forgiveness is required in dealings with all people, but those most deserving of it are the closest to us—those with whom we interact and live most closely. Foremost among them are the spouses. They are the closest of people to one another and the most frequent in association and companionship. Therefore, they must adorn themselves with this noble character so that peace may prevail in their home, harmony may fill their hearts, protect them from division and collapse, and establish affection and concord between them. Because of the great importance of this virtue, Allāh has elevated its status and encouraged it. He said, advising His Prophet ﷺ: “Take forgiveness, enjoin what is right.” [Al-Aʿrāf 7:199] And He also said: “Let them pardon and overlook. Do you not love that Allah should forgive you?” [An-Nūr 24:22] The Prophet ﷺ explained that Allāh raises the rank of those who forgive, saying: “Allāh does not increase a servant through forgiveness except in honour.” [Reported by Muslim] As mentioned, human beings err and do right, and mistakes often occur among those who are most closely associated. At the forefront of such relationships are spouses; thus, they must pardon and forgive slips and shortcomings. It is narrated that Ibn As-Sammāk once had a disagreement with a friend. The friend said, “Let our meeting tomorrow be for reproach.” Ibn As-Sammāk replied, “Rather, let our meeting tomorrow be for mutual forgiveness.” They should also strive to please one another. Abū Ad-Dardāʾ said to Umm Ad-Dardāʾ: “If I become angry, then please me, and if you become angry, I will please you. If we are not like this, how quickly we will part.” If one of the spouses errs against the other even once, that should be borne with patience. Shaykh Ibn ʿUthaymīn said: “If the wife, for example, responds harshly to you once, yet she has treated you well many times; she was unpleasant one night but kind on many nights; she treated the children poorly once but treated them well often—then this is how matters should be weighed.” If your wife treats you poorly, do not focus only on the present offense. Rather, look to the past and consider the future, and judge with justice. If goodness outweighs harm, then the judgment is in favour of goodness. In conclusion: Pardon, forgive, show tolerance, and overlook one another’s mistakes. Live your lives with love and forgiveness. Source: https://t.me/abdelgniomry/8086 #LIFE_LESSONS