𝗪𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻'𝘀 𝗕𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗳𝗶𝘁𝘀 (92)

The stigma of polygyny We live in a time where polygyny is viewed as something strange, shameful, and even offensive. Today, if a woman supports her husband in seeking a second, third, or fourth wife, people label her as naïve, delusional, or oppressed. And if a man expresses his wish to marry again, he’s often called disloyal, lustful, or accused of having an unsatisfied wife. Yet, when a wife sincerely helps her husband find another wife—out of love, respect, and acceptance—it reflects deep faith and emotional strength. She seeks harmony by choosing someone she can trust and build a relationship with, rather than leaving it to secrecy or conflict. Such sacrifice, made for the sake of Allah (ʿAzza wa Jall), carries immense reward. So if people call such a woman foolish or delusional, what then would they call the noble women who lived during the time of the Prophet ﷺ? Would they dare describe them that way? Aʿūdhu billāh! Similarly, when a man seeks another marriage while being transparent and fair with his first wife, why do people label him as unfaithful or insincere? True disloyalty is when a man commits what is harām—cheating or lying—while neglecting his wife’s rights. Sadly, many women today forgive hidden sins but condemn a man who marries lawfully and responsibly. To claim that such a man is “desperate” is unreasonable. A man does not marry again out of desperation, but because he believes the woman he chooses is fit and suitable as a second, third, or fourth wife. And it is unjust to assume that the first wife must be lacking in something. Wallāhi, I have seen first wives deeply loved and honored—women who, despite their emotions, supported their husbands’ right to polygyny and were rewarded with even greater love and respect in return. Often, the first wife lacks nothing at all. She fulfills every duty, but her husband wishes to follow the Sunnah of the Prophet ﷺ, to build families and increase the Ummah. So if polygyny is practiced with fairness, wisdom, and sincerity, who are we to condemn it or view it with shame? It is truly saddening that in our time, what is halāl is treated as harām and abnormal, while harām relationships are being normalised and even celebrated. We live in an age where the world encourages disobedience and discourages the authentic teachings of the Prophet ﷺ. SubḥānAllāh, how times have changed. Today, it is no longer easy to distinguish, by appearances alone, those who are truly sincere to Allah (ʿAzza wa Jall) from those who are not. ➡️@womensbenefits