𝗪𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻'𝘀 𝗕𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗳𝗶𝘁𝘀 (447)

Falling in Love She says: I have fallen in love and wish that Allāh Almighty would unite us lawfully. What should I do? Sheikh Najeeb Ash-Shar’abi ḥafidhahullāh said [paraphrasing]: She should do what Allāh Almighty has commanded her to do: to fear Him, rely upon Him, and remain steadfast in chastity and modesty. Allāh, Exalted is He, will surely grant her relief, a way out, and a blessed and praiseworthy outcome, if He so wills. Allāh the Most High says: “And whoever fears Allāh – He will make for him a way out and provide for him from where he does not expect.” [Sūrat Aṭ-Ṭalāq, 65:2–3] And He says: “And whoever puts his trust in Allah – He will suffice him.” [Sūrat Aṭ-Ṭalāq, 65:3) ʿUmar (may Allāh be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allāh (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) said: “If you were to rely upon Allāh as He truly deserves, you would be provided for as the birds are: they leave in the morning hungry and return in the evening full.” [Narrated by At-Tirmidhī, no. 2344] And Ibn ʿUmar (may Allāh be pleased with them both) reported that the Messenger of Allāh (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) said: “Modesty and faith are inseparable companions: when one is removed, the other is removed as well.” [Narrated by al-Ḥākim, no. 58, and others, with supporting reports]. Allāh the Most High also says: “Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and guard their private parts; that is purer for them. Indeed, Allāh is All-Aware of what they do. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their private parts.” [Sūrat An-Nūr, 24:30–31] I advise her to direct her need to Allāh Almighty: to invoke Him, to ask of Him, and to seek His help. She will never be disappointed if she sincerely turns to Him and detaches her heart from what is unlawful. Allāh, Exalted is He, will please her with that which is best for her—either by granting her what she desires, or by turning her away from it—and perhaps He will prepare for her someone better. The key lies in freeing oneself from passion, seeking Allāh’s pleasure and obedience, for the good end belongs to those who do so. Allāh the Most High says: “And the good end is for the righteous.” [Sūrat Al-Aʿrāf, 7:128; Al-Qaṣaṣ, 28:83] And He says: “And the end is [best] for righteousness.” [Sūrat Ṭā Hā, 20:132] And He, the Most High, says: “Is He [not best] who responds to the desperate one when he calls upon Him and removes evil?” [Sūrat An-Naml, 27:62] She should also examine the man’s religion and character. If he lacks good morals and faith, she must not allow her mind or heart to become attached to him at all. But if he is upright in religion and conduct, then let her ask Allāh to choose for her what is most pleasing to Him and best for her in her faith and worldly life—whether that be marriage to him, or turning away from him. For Allāh knows, while His creation knows only what He teaches them. He is capable, whereas His creation has no power except what He grants them. She must remember that marriage, like all things, is decreed by Allāh Almighty, as He says: “Indeed, We have created everything according to a determined measure.” [Sūrat Al-Qamar, 54:49] And He says: “And you do not will unless Allāh wills.” [Sūrat Al-Insān, 76:30] And He says: “No calamity befalls on earth or within yourselves except that it is inscribed in a Book before We bring it into existence. Indeed, that is easy for Allāh—so that you may not grieve over what has escaped you, nor exult over what He has given you.” [Sūrat Al-Ḥadīd, 57:22–23] The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) said: “Allāh wrote the decrees of creation fifty thousand years before He created the heavens and the earth, and His Throne was upon the water.” [Narrated by Muslim, no. 2653, from ʿAbdullāh ibn ʿAmr ibn Al-ʿĀṣ, may Allah be pleased with them both] And he (peace be upon him) also said: “Everything is by divine decree—even one’s intelligence and one’s incapacity.” [Narrated by Muslim, no. 2655]