𝗠𝗲𝗻'𝘀 𝗕𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗳𝗶𝘁𝘀 (2)

True Manhood Includes Service to One’s Family Imām Al-Bukhāri writes in his Saḥīḥ: Chapter: One Who Was Engaged in the Needs of His Family When the Prayer Was Established and Then Went Out Ādam narrated to us, saying: Shu‘bah narrated to us, who said: Al-Ḥakam narrated from Ibrāhīm, from Al-Aswad, who said: I asked ‘Ā’ishah (may Allāh be pleased with her), “What would the Prophet ﷺ do in his house?” She replied: “He would be in the service of his family,” meaning that he would help them with household tasks. When the time for prayer came, he would go out to the prayer. Sheikh ’Uthaymeen raḥimahullāh comments: This demonstrates the humility of the Prophet ﷺ — that he would be at home serving his family, assisting them in their household needs such as washing, cleaning, and other tasks. Along with being part of the guidance of the Prophet ﷺ, this (practice of helping one’s family) is one of the strongest means to bring about affection and love between a husband and his wife. When a wife sees her husband participating in the affairs of the home and assisting her, she naturally feels greater love for him, since most men usually refrain from such tasks. Thus, the husband's humility in helping his wife serves to strengthen love and compassion. From this narration, we also learn that household duties do not excuse a person from attending congregational prayer, as the Prophet ﷺ would leave what he was doing and go out to pray. This differs from the case when food is served before a person — in that situation, he eats before joining the prayer. Questioner: If a man provides his wife with a servant, does that take the place of his helping her? Sheikh: The answer is no — it does not take the same place. The husband’s assistance to his family has a unique value and meaning. For example, if a husband and wife were washing dishes together at the sink, there might be light-hearted conversation and affection between them, something far different from having a separate servant do the work. In any case, being in service to his family is undoubtedly among the signs of humility, and it is part of the Prophet’s ﷺ Sunnah that fosters love and kindness. Did not the Messenger ﷺ bathe with ‘Ā’ishah from the same vessel, and she would say, “Leave some for me, leave some for me”? All of this nurtures affection and closeness — yet, unfortunately, many people are deprived of such blessings. https://t.me/Menzbenefits/5