Advice for the Groom (2)

I know you've been roasting all these years, struggling to hold back your desires, but be gentle and don’t rush the process. Don’t let your desires distract you from the sunans of the first night. I emphasise the first night because first impressions matter, and the beginning of a marriage often sets the tone for what follows. If you are too relaxed, it may be used against you when you later want to be more serious. If you are too serious, you will run out of steam and struggle to maintain that approach. The best path is the balanced one. There are times to enjoy and have fun, and there are times to be serious. Let the boundaries form naturally over time, through understanding, communication, and mutual respect, rather than forcing them too early or making things feel overly structured.