𝗠𝗲𝗻'𝘀 𝗕𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗳𝗶𝘁𝘀 (104)

Al-Mu‘allimī’s View on Marriage He rahimahullah writes: “As for marriage — and what can you truly say about marriage? — I cannot point you toward a specific choice, because in my own experience I have found that marriage contains both good and bad. Its good is the protection of one’s chastity and moral integrity. As for its bad: it brings many expenses, constant worries, and other difficulties. Women are somewhat like sheep: their bellies are never satisfied, their thirst is never quenched, and they tend to follow what attracts them — especially when it comes to clothing and jewellery. The hardest thing for a woman is to see another woman having jewellery that she does not have, or clothing more beautiful than what she owns. The matter becomes even more difficult: if her husband does not give her what she wants — and of course he cannot always do so — she brings him worry and sadness. As for me, I do not follow my wife’s desires, but I still cannot escape worry, distress, and a troubled state of mind. In short, I would advise you to marry, because the good of marriage is greater than its harm, as you know. However, I cannot command you to do so, because of what I have mentioned: its hardships can be greater than its comforts. So you should seek guidance from Allah, the Almighty. If your inclination toward marriage becomes stronger, then strive to find a suitable wife, seek Allah’s guidance regarding her, and then marry. Sufyān Ath-Thawrī said: ‘Whoever marries has boarded the sea; and when he has a child, the ship breaks beneath him’ — meaning, his ship breaks apart.” From: The Collected Works of Shaykh Al-‘Allāmah ‘Abdurraḥmān ibn Yaḥyā Al-Mu‘allimī, vol. 1, p. 223. Source: https://t.me/Menzbenefits/447