𝗠𝗲𝗻'𝘀 𝗕𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗳𝗶𝘁𝘀 (101)

The Importance of Foreplay Nothing more needs to be said other than: Don't be that guy ⤵️ A sister's complaint: "There's a hadith that worries me. It says that if a husband calls his wife to bed and she refuses, the angels curse her until morning. I've been married for some years, and my husband struggled with a pornography addiction for many years. It was very difficult for our marriage and for me, but alhamdulillah, he managed to leave it behind. It has been about a year now since he stopped. However, the problem is the effect it has had on me. I often feel less loved, less appreciated, and emotionally disconnected. We are trying to repair our marriage, but we seem unable to agree with one another. When my husband wants intimacy, he often calls me and rushes into it without giving me time to prepare emotionally or physically, and without any foreplay. As a result, it feels as though I am only doing it for him rather than sharing in it together. This has been going on for a long time, and although it was difficult, I have explained my feelings to him. Unfortunately, things have not changed, and we continue to have issues regarding intimacy. It makes me feel sad because when things do not work out, he simply turns over and goes to sleep, which hurts me deeply. It feels as though my emotions do not matter and that my needs are not being considered... I love him so much. By Allah, I constantly pray for us to have a marriage that pleases Allah. But I do not feel loved by him. Rather, it feels as though we are simply cooperating and going through the motions. I do not know what to do anymore. All I know is that I am tired of crying and feeling unloved. It seems that he only kisses me or shows affection when he wants intimacy. May Allah forgive me, but the worst part is that I have started watching pornography. I do not know what came over me. It is Shaytan, and I ask Allah to forgive me. I know it is wrong, but part of me felt that maybe if I did what he used to do, I would understand him. Maybe I would understand what drew him to it and why it had such a hold on him. But it has not helped. Instead, I find myself falling into sin and doing the very thing that hurt me so deeply. Rather than bringing understanding, it has only brought me closer to the same mistake. May Allah forgive me, guide me, and help us mend our marriage in a way that is pleasing to Him." [End of quote] Source: https://t.me/Menzbenefits/433