𝗠𝗲𝗻'𝘀 𝗕𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗳𝗶𝘁𝘀 (88)

Forgiveness and Boundaries in Marriage The questioner says: I am married to a woman whose father has passed away. After the marriage contract, but before I lived with her, I found out she was involved with a young man—talking to him and flirting while I was away. I forgave her for the sake of Allah, because she is an orphan and has no one but Allah. After one year of marriage, she has repeated the same mistake with another man online. I want your advice so that my decision is not unjust, because I am thinking of divorcing her. May Allah bless you and increase you in beneficial knowledge. Sheikh Zaid Al-Madkhali rahimahullah: This problem is truly not easy, because it is connected to one's honour. A person might forgive matters related to money, but matters of honour are not easily forgiven—not even with words, let alone more serious actions. Since what happened was only talking and no actual adultery, the husband should offer her a chance to repent. If she sincerely repents to Allah, and he sees clear signs of change in her behaviour—replacing bad actions with good ones—then he should keep her, treat her well, teach her, and advise her. However, if he advises her and gives her the chance to repent, but she does not change and continues her behaviour, then she is acting foolishly and is not good for him. In that case, he should not continue to be lenient with her if she persists in flirting with other men. This is sincere advice for this balanced and patient man, as he is not acting hastily. Source: https://t.me/Menzbenefits/361