Email Correspondence

Sharing for public benefit بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته يا ابا اسحاق How are you my beloved brother in islaam? I am a common man amongst the Muslims and I follow your channel, your da’wah is wonderful Allaahumma Baarik and I ask Allaah to bless it for you. Today I came across a post of yours on telegram regarding the divorcees and widowed women being treated as used cars [https://t.me/madrasatuna/5649]. By Allaah I agree with the fact that the Muslims of old took much more importance in marrying the widowed, divorced, weak, abandoned, and vulnerable women. I myself have heard the believing men in our time refer to some of the believing women in our time as used, along with other descriptions that carry a negative meaning. But I believe that this is a domino affect of what has been allowed to occur amongst the Muslims. Widowed women are generally not to be blamed for their situation, but there are times when a divorcee is at fault. Women in our time(especially in the west) are being encouraged to divorce their husbands whenever they become unhappy, being given the impression that they will always find better. Destroying homes left and right. I find that some of those who are in charge of Da’wah in our time may be unaware of the reality of what men are facing. The plague of Feminism is at an all time high and women are being made to dislike the place that Allaah has ordained for them. There is an alarming rate of women leaving their marriages, with the thought and claim that their husband was a “Narcissist” (A term that you may and may not have come across). And perhaps, the men in question were only creating standards in their homes that the women don’t want to adhere to because of the rebellion and intrusive thoughts of feminism. The believing women are literally being weaponized against the believing men in our time. It can be found all over the western world. I do not say that it is proper to refer to a believing women as a used car, but a woman is not supposed to be touched over and over again without dedicated commitment(Which is what occurs when the women leaves from one husband to the next as if the men are cars). Which is why when the man divorces a woman three times, she is not allowed to marry that man again until she marries another man and then has intercourse with the new husband. And then if they divorce she is lawful again for the previous husband, which is not very common.(Suuratul Baqarah 2 Ayah 230). So I believe a solution to the modern day stance that men have taken against some women can be fought against by way of teaching women to value their marriages and their husbands more. Women in our time see men as a luxury and not a need. This has to change, but some women will only listen to those who have status amongst the Muslims. No doubt about it, men should be able to communicate properly to and teach their womenfolk these issues without third parties. But some men are not eloquent enough to relay some of these issues to a woman who thinks that she is better than him or is competing with him. And it is quite common to find young Muslim women who have no respect for male authority. And then when they are divorced, they complain about being a victim (which I believe should not be allowed) when in truth they are guilty of self sabotage. I find that the problem starts with us as men. But if the men are only taught how to be good men towards women, but women aren’t taught how to be good women towards men, there will be an imbalance in behaviors. I believe you are doing a great job brother, and I ask Allaah to bless you. But I wanted to shed some light on some of the reasons why I believe the Muslim Ummah (especially in the west) is facing what it is facing from marital inadequacies. From your brother in Islaam Abuu Rifq Al-Amreekee Ash-Shaam Region Rajab 6, 1447 AH