𝗠𝗲𝗻'𝘀 𝗕𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗳𝗶𝘁𝘀 (59)

Sheikh ʿUthaymīn's Advice to Husbands He (may Allāh have mercy on him) said: “The remedy for disputes between spouses is not to expel the wife from the house to her family—this only exacerbates the matter. Rather, the husband should show kindness and affection to his wife and forgive her faults. It is also incumbent upon a man to be a true man in the proper sense of the word. Therefore, I advise our brothers that whenever conflicts or misunderstandings arise between them and their wives, the man should exercise patience, bear with the situation, and treat the woman as she rightly deserves, in accordance with the guidance of the Messenger of Allāh (peace and blessings be upon him). The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: "Treat women well, for a woman is created from a rib, and the most crooked part of the rib is its top. If you attempt to straighten it, you will break it, and if you leave it, it will remain crooked. So treat women well." [Sahih Al-Bukhari, 3331] I am confident that if a man obeys Allāh and His Messenger in his treatment of his household, Allāh will transform any animosity or ill-will in her heart into love and devotion. Allāh, the Exalted, says: “Not equal are the good deed and the bad. Repel [evil] by that [deed] which is better; and thereupon the one between whom and you there was enmity will become as though he was a devoted friend.” [Surah Fussilat, 41:34] Indeed, hearts are in the hands of Allāh. Respond with that which is best, and circumstances will change, by the will of Allāh.” [Al-Liqā’ Ash-Shahri, 38 / Masāwī’ Al-Akhlāq]