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Distance Creates Reverence, Familiarity Reduces it Sheikh 'Abdulkarim Al-Khudhair hafidhahullah said: There is a statement from the scholars, and it has a share of truth in reality. They said: “The people who are most detached from (or least interested in) a scholar are his family and his neighbours.” This can be observed. You find that a great scholar—his children, if they have goodness, eagerness, and a desire for knowledge—attend the lessons of other scholars. This is undoubtedly good, but you still find them somewhat detached from their own father. So, the people most detached from a scholar are his family and neighbours. Perhaps the reason for that is that reverence, respect, and esteem in people’s hearts are tied to complete formality and decorum. When you see a scholar from a distance, you find him dignified—generally composed, properly dressed, and perhaps wearing a cloak. But the father, you see him in states where some formality is lacking; sometimes he may not even be properly dressed while among his children and wives. In such a situation, there is no doubt that his awe in their hearts decreases. Also, frequent contact—his constant presence among them at all times—and their seeing his behaviour, which is human, and human behaviour inevitably has shortcomings. When family members and children observe this, his standing in their eyes drops, so they turn to others. Whereas other scholars are consistently seen in a state of formality, never appearing otherwise, so you find people becoming more attached to them than to their own father or brother who is a scholar. Source: https://t.me/masjidsahabah/1918 #Tarbiyah@masjidsahabah