Notice how in these two ḥadīths Ā'ishah raḍhiyallāhu ’anhā says, “I was on my period”; the time during which a woman becomes moody due to the physiological chan
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These actions and gestures will make your wife feel like you love her and that she means a lot to you, and not that she is just a maid for you.
13. Don't allow your desire to marry a second wife occupy you from focusing on your current wife. Polygyny is like building a four storey block, you can only start work on the next floor if the floor below is stable.
14. 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘀𝘆𝗺𝗽𝗮𝘁𝗵𝘆 𝘁𝗼𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗱𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘄𝗶𝗳𝗲, especially when she falls ill or going through a difficult time.
This is what marriage is all about; finding comfort in your partner, compassion, mercy...as Allāh ﷻ said:
{وَمِنۡ ءَایَـٰتِهِۦۤ أَنۡ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنۡ أَنفُسِكُمۡ أَزۡوَ ٰجࣰا لِّتَسۡكُنُوۤا۟ إِلَیۡهَا وَجَعَلَ بَیۡنَكُم مَّوَدَّةࣰ وَرَحۡمَةًۚ إِنَّ فِی ذَ ٰلِكَ لَـَٔایَـٰتࣲ لِّقَوۡمࣲ یَتَفَكَّرُونَ}
“And among His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves so that you may find comfort in them. And He has placed between you compassion and mercy. Surely in this are signs for people who reflect.”
[Sūrah Ar-Rūm, Āyah 21]
A wise person said: when your wife feels weak, be to her like a Father. When she cries, be to her like a Mother. When she makes a mistake, be to her like a brother. When she complains, be to her like a Friend. When she feels afraid, annex her into your heart and be to her like a lover. When she needs advice, be to her like a sister. And make her feel like you will always be with her and not abandon her till death. Once you are like this, your wife will be the most loving of wife you could ever wish for.
15. 𝗦𝘂𝗰𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗔𝗹𝗹𝗮𝗵 𝘀𝗼 𝗮𝘀𝗸 𝗛𝗶𝗺 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗲𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗮𝗳𝗳𝗮𝗶𝗿𝘀 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁
{رَبَّنَا هَبۡ لَنَا مِنۡ أَزۡوَ ٰجِنَا وَذُرِّیَّـٰتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعۡیُنࣲ وَٱجۡعَلۡنَا لِلۡمُتَّقِینَ إِمَامًا}
“Our Lord! Bless us with ˹pious˺ spouses and offspring who will be the joy of our hearts, and make us models for the righteous.”
[Surah Al-Furqân: 74]
It is related that ’Abdullāh ibn Mas'ūd raḍhiyallāhu ’anhu used to say this supplication a lot:
((اللَّهُمَّ أَلِّفْ بَيْنَ قُلُوبِنَا، وَأَصْلِحْ ذَاتَ بَيْنِنَا، وَاهْدِنَا سُبُلَ السَّلَامِ، وَنَجِّنَا مِنَ الظُّلُمَاتِ إِلَى النُّورِ، وَجَنِّبْنَا الْفَوَاحِشَ مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَمَا بَطَنَ، وَبَارِكْ لَنَا فِي أَسْمَاعِنَا، وَأَبْصَارِنَا، وَقُلُوبِنَا، وَأَزْوَاجِنَا، وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا، وَتُبْ عَلَيْنَا إِنَّكَ أَنْتَ التَّوَّابُ الرَّحِيمُ، وَاجْعَلْنَا شَاكِرِينَ لِنِعْمِكَ مُثْنِينَ بِهَا عَلَيْكَ، قَابِلِينَ لَهَا، وَأَتِمِمْهَا عَلَيْنَا)).
“O Allah! Reconcile our hearts, amend what is between us, guide us to the paths of peace, save us from the darkness [and admit us] to light, and save us from obscenities, inwardly or outwardly, and bless our hearing, seeing, hearts, spouses and offspring. And accept our repentance, indeed You are the Ever Accepting of Repentance, the Merciful, and make us thankful for Your favours. All praise is due to You. Accept our good deeds and complete them for us.”
[Sahih Adab al-Mufrad, No. 630]
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