20 pieces of advice for my newly married brother

____ 1. Call her using beautiful names 2. Treat her kindly 3. Set high standards from the start: - display good manners - good hygiene - don't be on your phone 24/7 - continue to offer congregational prayers in the masjid (especially Fajr - as you may stay awake throughout the night) - set a suitable timetable for mealtimes - occasional reminders/duroos 4. Buy her gifts occasionally (it doesn't have to be expensive - it's the thought that counts, even if it's something as trivial as a lollipop). Good Islamic books should be a priority in terms of gifts. 5. Don't rush into intercourse. Take it nice and easy. Let things happen naturally. Remember that you will be rewarded if you have the right intention. Don't forget your du'as! Make sure to satisfy her needs. 6. Help her around the house. 7. Honor her parents. 8. Let her know how much she means to you, how much you love her and how lucky you are to have her. 9. Praise her and show your appreciation when she does things for you...جزاكِ الله خيرا goes a long way. 10. Don't rush to criticise her if she makes a mistake, and never shame her in front of others. 11. Make yourself look attractive for her as you'd like her to make herself look attractive for you 12. Chat with her when you are together. 13. Phone her when you are outside to tell her how much you miss her. 14. Make the most of your time together during these early stages before kids come in the way. 15. Study the Deen together, even if it's exchanging just 1 benefit a day. 16. Avoid aggression. 17. Encourage her to avoid bad habits and bad friends. 18. Avoid talking to her about a second wife. 19. Remember her in your du'as 20. Thank Allah for blessing you with a wife. How many would wish to be in your shoes. بارك اللــه لـك وبارك علـيك وجمـع بـينـكـما في خير