11. Concerning the statement of the Prophet ﷺ:

((فإذا حللت فآذنيني)) ‌‏ “When you are free to remarry (i.e. After completing your 'Iddah), inform me” An-Nawawi rahimahullah commented: “In this is permissibility for one to implicitly propose to a woman who has been issued an irrevocable divorce, and this is the correct view with us (i.e. The Shafi'ees).” [end of quote from Sharh Muslim] NOTE: Don't go 'DM'ing sisters subliminal messages. If you are serious about marriage, go through the right channels. Speak to their Mahram or get a female relative to message them instead. 12. Fatimah bint Qais radhiyallahu 'anha said: “When I was free to remarry, I mentioned to the Prophet ﷺ that Mu'awiyah ibn Abi Sufyan and Abu Jahm ibn Hisham had asked for me in marriage.” QUESTION: how do reconcile between the multiple proposals contained in this hadeeth and the prohibition in the hadeeth of Abu Hurairah (reported by Muslim) ولا يخطب على خطبة أخيه “He must not propose over the proposal of his brother”? ANSWER: Imam At-Tirmithi rahimahullah mentions in his Sunan (under Hadeeth no. 1134) that: “Malik ibn Anas said: 'The prohibition for a man to propose over the proposal of his brother applies when a man proposes to a woman and she accepts, that is when no other person is allowed to propose over his proposal. Likewise, Ash-Shafi'ee said: 'The meaning of this hadith is that a man must not propose over his brother: this, according to us, is when a man proposes to a woman and she accepts and inclines to him, then no one has the right to propose over his proposal. But prior to her consent or inclination being known, there is nothing wrong with him proposing to her. The evidence for this is the hadeeth of Fatimah bint Qays... So the meaning of this hadith according to us, and Allah knows best is that Fatimah did not inform him of her acceptance of any of them, but had she informed him of that, he would not have recommended anyone else on top of those she had mentioned. [end of quote] 13. Concerning the statement of the Prophet ﷺ: ((أما أبو الجهم فلا يضع العصا عن عاتقه)) “As for Abu Jahm, he never puts down his stick from his shoulder” An-Nawawi rahimahullah commented: “There are two well-known interpretations concerning this, one of them is that he is always travelling, and the second is that he beats women a lot, and the latter is more correct, as proven by the narration relayed by Muslim...that he is (ضرّاب للنساء) - regularly beats women.” [end of quote] 14. Concerning the Prophet's criticism of Abul-Jahm and Mu'awiyah (may Allah be pleased with them both) An-Nawawi rahimahullah commented: “In this is evidence for the permissibility of mentioning the faults of a person when consulted and sought to give advice, and this is not from the forbidden backbiting, but rather from obligatory advice. The scholars said: Backbiting is permissible in six occasions; one of which is when giving advice, and I mentioned these with their evidence in 'Kitabul Adh-Kaar' and then in 'Riyadh As-Saaliheen' [https://t.me/madrasatuna/286]