Don't nullify your good deeds❗️

📝 Question: I have a mother, may Allāh protect her, whenever she requests something from me I immediately comply in fulfilling her request. I do not complain or whine in front of her, nor do I display any displeasure. However when I go to some of my sisters, I complain to them regarding my mother, of her many demands. Is this considered disobedience and undutifulness towards the parents? Please benefit me, may Allāh bless you. ✅ Answer (by Sheikh Muḥammad ibn Ṣāliḥ al-‘Uthaymeen raḥimahullāh): I consider this to be disobedience and undutifulness towards the parents, as this is backbiting the mother. If this woman was (truly) seeking the Face of Allāh by pleasing her mother through fulfilling her demands and requests, then it is not permissible to make mention of it and hurt and offend her mother by saying bad words about her in the presence of her friends. Allāh, the Most High says: {یَـٰۤأَیُّهَا ٱلَّذِینَ ءَامَنُوا۟ لَا تُبۡطِلُوا۟ صَدَقَـٰتِكُم بِٱلۡمَنِّ وَٱلۡأَذَىٰ} “O you who believe, do not nullify your acts of charity with (hurtful) reminders and hurtful words.” [Sūrah Al-Baqarah 264] So this woman must sincerely repent to Allāh, the Mighty and Majestic for what she has done and cease doing this again in the future and she must seek the Face of Allāh when pleasing her mother by fulfilling her requests and demands and that she prays for her guidance. [Fatwa Nūr ‘ala ad-Darb vol.12. pg: 302-303. question no.5478]